Comments on: You Mean Nothing http://aworldofprogress.com/you-mean-nothing/ an online magazine for the Progressive Human Tue, 16 Mar 2010 20:16:57 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Mike S http://aworldofprogress.com/you-mean-nothing/comment-page-1/#comment-1866 Mike S Thu, 24 Sep 2009 03:00:03 +0000 http://aworldofprogress.com/?p=5583#comment-1866 Tina....for a long time that was my reaction to similar situations, then I got smarter with age & realized knocking out all those teeth was playing havoc with my knuckles;) Tina….for a long time that was my reaction to similar situations, then I got smarter with age & realized knocking out all those teeth was playing havoc with my knuckles;)

]]> By: Tina-cious.com http://aworldofprogress.com/you-mean-nothing/comment-page-1/#comment-1864 Tina-cious.com Wed, 23 Sep 2009 16:36:36 +0000 http://aworldofprogress.com/?p=5583#comment-1864 Oh hell no. She'd be trying to talk with my fist in her mouth. Oh hell no. She’d be trying to talk with my fist in her mouth.

]]> By: Mike S http://aworldofprogress.com/you-mean-nothing/comment-page-1/#comment-1858 Mike S Mon, 21 Sep 2009 08:12:38 +0000 http://aworldofprogress.com/?p=5583#comment-1858 Many states have laws that consider such behavior 'cruelty to a minor' and will prosecute for some cases of it. As their mother, YOU have the right to demand that they not be exposed to continuous derogatory statements against anyone. Putting them through the trama is the downside of pushing the issue. We ran into this often while we were foster parents, with bitter feelings on the part of one or both of the biological parents. It's traumatic for the kids if the 'new' spouse or partner has to be refused contact with them, even with the hurt they cause with their statements. The child doesn't want to cause the parent trouble in fear of driving them away. Being a GLBT partner in those circumstances in states that treat GLBT people like 'non-persons' must be horrible. Common courtesy, respect, and acceptance can't be legislated unfortunately. If it could be, lawyers specializing in those cases would flourish. Sad to say, but seems you have to accept bad behavior sometimes to prevent worse damage. The way I try to cope with what few problems with racism I deal with when involving minors is to keep telling myself they'll someday be exposed to a broader cross-section of folks & see firsthand that such attitudes are hurtful & wrong. Little comfort, but at times it's best to tolerate intolerance while the young are present & explain to them later why those actions are wrong. Many states have laws that consider such behavior ‘cruelty to a minor’ and will prosecute for some cases of it. As their mother, YOU have the right to demand that they not be exposed to continuous derogatory statements against anyone. Putting them through the trama is the downside of pushing the issue. We ran into this often while we were foster parents, with bitter feelings on the part of one or both of the biological parents. It’s traumatic for the kids if the ‘new’ spouse or partner has to be refused contact with them, even with the hurt they cause with their statements. The child doesn’t want to cause the parent trouble in fear of driving them away. Being a GLBT partner in those circumstances in states that treat GLBT people like ‘non-persons’ must be horrible. Common courtesy, respect, and acceptance can’t be legislated unfortunately. If it could be, lawyers specializing in those cases would flourish.

Sad to say, but seems you have to accept bad behavior sometimes to prevent worse damage. The way I try to cope with what few problems with racism I deal with when involving minors is to keep telling myself they’ll someday be exposed to a broader cross-section of folks & see firsthand that such attitudes are hurtful & wrong. Little comfort, but at times it’s best to tolerate intolerance while the young are present & explain to them later why those actions are wrong.

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