Comments on: Out of the Darkness http://aworldofprogress.com/out-of-the-darkness/ an online magazine for the Progressive Human Tue, 16 Mar 2010 04:06:09 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: c http://aworldofprogress.com/out-of-the-darkness/comment-page-1/#comment-2466 c Sun, 03 Jan 2010 06:28:51 +0000 http://aworldofprogress.com/?p=6218#comment-2466 Thank you, dear Elena! It has been a pleasure to become acquainted with you. You are truly a survivor-rise-abover! See you at our next walk. c Thank you, dear Elena!
It has been a pleasure to become acquainted with you. You are truly a survivor-rise-abover!
See you at our next walk.
c

]]> By: A Progressive Girl http://aworldofprogress.com/out-of-the-darkness/comment-page-1/#comment-2180 A Progressive Girl Fri, 04 Dec 2009 01:52:23 +0000 http://aworldofprogress.com/?p=6218#comment-2180 Greetings Elena, We are most pleased and honored to have you join us. I look forward to hearing more about how you are turning one of the most horrific events of your life into a powerful tool for personal growth. I have found that to be the only good use for my own encounters with violation and the only way to heal them. kim g. Greetings Elena,

We are most pleased and honored to have you join us.

I look forward to hearing more about how you are turning one of the most horrific events of your life into a powerful tool for personal growth. I have found that to be the only good use for my own encounters with violation and the only way to heal them.

kim g.

]]> By: Elena Kelly http://aworldofprogress.com/out-of-the-darkness/comment-page-1/#comment-2164 Elena Kelly Mon, 30 Nov 2009 01:52:25 +0000 http://aworldofprogress.com/?p=6218#comment-2164 Lori, it is significant that you highlighted the word "reported." I was tempted not to report this. Strongly tempted in fact. But I think my healing has come along more quickly than if I had bottled it up inside. I can't speak for others who have been assaulted at all, because I have a fabulous network of friends and family who helped me through the worst of it and are still here for me today. If I had not told them, they would not have known I needed them so desperately. I think people really want to help if we can give them the opportunity. And I am truly thrilled to be here on AWOP. Lori, it is significant that you highlighted the word “reported.” I was tempted not to report this. Strongly tempted in fact. But I think my healing has come along more quickly than if I had bottled it up inside. I can’t speak for others who have been assaulted at all, because I have a fabulous network of friends and family who helped me through the worst of it and are still here for me today. If I had not told them, they would not have known I needed them so desperately. I think people really want to help if we can give them the opportunity.

And I am truly thrilled to be here on AWOP.

]]> By: Elena Kelly http://aworldofprogress.com/out-of-the-darkness/comment-page-1/#comment-2163 Elena Kelly Mon, 30 Nov 2009 01:48:54 +0000 http://aworldofprogress.com/?p=6218#comment-2163 Thank you Agm for sharing that you too were abused. My sincere wish for you is that you can find the means to rise above it, let go of any shame or fear, and live free and happy every day of your life. Because you are a beautiful and wonderful person and you deserve the best. Thank you Agm for sharing that you too were abused. My sincere wish for you is that you can find the means to rise above it, let go of any shame or fear, and live free and happy every day of your life. Because you are a beautiful and wonderful person and you deserve the best.

]]> By: Elena Kelly http://aworldofprogress.com/out-of-the-darkness/comment-page-1/#comment-2162 Elena Kelly Mon, 30 Nov 2009 01:46:41 +0000 http://aworldofprogress.com/?p=6218#comment-2162 Leslie, thank you so much for recommending me to the AWOP editors. I am very happy to be here and share what a transwoman experiences, good and not-so-good with this audience. So far no one has called me an abomination, but I've never let that shut me up before, so if it happens, I'll get over it. And yes, my spirit remains untouched by any rapist. Big hugs to you my dear sister. Leslie, thank you so much for recommending me to the AWOP editors. I am very happy to be here and share what a transwoman experiences, good and not-so-good with this audience. So far no one has called me an abomination, but I’ve never let that shut me up before, so if it happens, I’ll get over it. And yes, my spirit remains untouched by any rapist. Big hugs to you my dear sister.

]]> By: Elena Kelly http://aworldofprogress.com/out-of-the-darkness/comment-page-1/#comment-2161 Elena Kelly Mon, 30 Nov 2009 01:43:35 +0000 http://aworldofprogress.com/?p=6218#comment-2161 CP, when I woke up there was no one in my room, despite the hospital claiming that I was continuously monitored. If be continuous they mean they looked in on me a couple of times over the half hour, then maybe they did. But someone knew how they operate and slipped in long enough to hurt me without being too obvious. Or maybe someone was covering for him. I guess we'll never know. CP, when I woke up there was no one in my room, despite the hospital claiming that I was continuously monitored. If be continuous they mean they looked in on me a couple of times over the half hour, then maybe they did. But someone knew how they operate and slipped in long enough to hurt me without being too obvious. Or maybe someone was covering for him. I guess we’ll never know.

]]> By: Elena Kelly http://aworldofprogress.com/out-of-the-darkness/comment-page-1/#comment-2160 Elena Kelly Mon, 30 Nov 2009 01:40:57 +0000 http://aworldofprogress.com/?p=6218#comment-2160 Lucia, I have requested three times to come as a volunteer to the police roll call in the morning and provide a free five minute instruction on what it is to be transgender, and how the police should treat us because of who we are. No response. It is that attitude that keeps transgender people in fear, and does nothing to mitigate the discrimination and hatred directed at us. Thank you for the healing energy. Goddess knows I need it! Back at you sister. Lucia, I have requested three times to come as a volunteer to the police roll call in the morning and provide a free five minute instruction on what it is to be transgender, and how the police should treat us because of who we are. No response. It is that attitude that keeps transgender people in fear, and does nothing to mitigate the discrimination and hatred directed at us. Thank you for the healing energy. Goddess knows I need it! Back at you sister.

]]> By: Elena Kelly http://aworldofprogress.com/out-of-the-darkness/comment-page-1/#comment-2159 Elena Kelly Mon, 30 Nov 2009 01:37:43 +0000 http://aworldofprogress.com/?p=6218#comment-2159 Hello Tara! I have learned that the hospital has no security cameras on the hallway where my room was. With just that video tape the case would be closed and the rapist behind bars. They said cameras were w violation of patient privacy. I said, "Why? Do some patients change clothes in the hall?" I also went a few rounds with them over the policy that the family and friends have to wait in the Waiting Room until the patient awakens from anesthesia. If my oldest daughter had been in my room from the moment I came out of surgery, this wouldn't have happened. They told me it was OK for family to be in the room as long as it is requested in advance. Problem is they never told us that in advance. So I hope they do something even though I'm not suing them. If not, it's squarely on them if/when this happens to someone else. Hello Tara! I have learned that the hospital has no security cameras on the hallway where my room was. With just that video tape the case would be closed and the rapist behind bars. They said cameras were w violation of patient privacy. I said, “Why? Do some patients change clothes in the hall?” I also went a few rounds with them over the policy that the family and friends have to wait in the Waiting Room until the patient awakens from anesthesia. If my oldest daughter had been in my room from the moment I came out of surgery, this wouldn’t have happened. They told me it was OK for family to be in the room as long as it is requested in advance. Problem is they never told us that in advance. So I hope they do something even though I’m not suing them. If not, it’s squarely on them if/when this happens to someone else.

]]> By: Elena Kelly http://aworldofprogress.com/out-of-the-darkness/comment-page-1/#comment-2158 Elena Kelly Mon, 30 Nov 2009 01:33:16 +0000 http://aworldofprogress.com/?p=6218#comment-2158 Hi Lisa! Some have advised me not to talk about it. Some have even said I was opening old wounds for others by refusing to shut up. I share your perspective and believe that if it opens an old would, then perhaps that wound never has been able to heal. I wish you all the best, dear one. Hi Lisa! Some have advised me not to talk about it. Some have even said I was opening old wounds for others by refusing to shut up. I share your perspective and believe that if it opens an old would, then perhaps that wound never has been able to heal. I wish you all the best, dear one.

]]> By: Elena Kelly http://aworldofprogress.com/out-of-the-darkness/comment-page-1/#comment-2157 Elena Kelly Mon, 30 Nov 2009 01:29:41 +0000 http://aworldofprogress.com/?p=6218#comment-2157 Thank you for the vote of confidence Margo. I am delighted to be here and writing for AWOP. It is a cruel irony indeed, but I was fortunate in some ways that I was asleep when it happened. At least now I do not have a memory of his face, his rage, his hatred directed at me. Thank you for the vote of confidence Margo. I am delighted to be here and writing for AWOP. It is a cruel irony indeed, but I was fortunate in some ways that I was asleep when it happened. At least now I do not have a memory of his face, his rage, his hatred directed at me.

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